THE MAGIC WORDS (LIFE SAVER)

                THE MAGIC WORDS
                      (LIFE SAVER)

Yeah!  its magical but not abracadabra
Words are powerful!
Words are used to communicate ideas and feelings. However, bad communication attracts abusive response.
There are some 5 magic words everyone should know and learn to use always.It’s quite unfortunate that as simple as these words are, people find it difficult to say them when the need arises.
This 5 magic words when not said when they are needed has led many to Death,Hatred,unending Quarrels,Disputes,Broken relationships and marriages etc.
And when these words are said at the right time its a life saver.
This 5 magic words have saved a lot of people.The words bring about peaceful coexistence between two people, it Shows politeness ,Humility, integrity, and shows your true manners.

The First Magic Word Is
1) PLEASE

A magic word to use when in need of something from someone
A magic word which shows and depicts a humble person in a quest for something.
Some people have been denied access to something or someone just because this magic word wasn’t used.
Life would have been a bit easier if everyone was to learn how to use this word.
The rate of rejection would be reduced if this word was used in request cases.Rarely will you find someone who rejected a request from someone who used the word “please”. It's a magic word that melts the heart of the giver.The word 'please' should be used appropriately used and heartly meant not please naaa (that could be provoking )Do not abuse the use of it.


2. 'SORRY/I'M SORRY'

This is the mother of all magical words which can be used in all situation. It melts the heart of an aggressive opponent, saves people from harm, showcases humility ,maturity and solves most problems.
Too bad many people find it difficult to say the word sorry, perhaps they think saying it brings down their status in the sight of others or makes them inferior to the other fellow. No, this is not so. Sorry is a word of apology, it indicates acceptance of a fault and apologizing to the affected person. This word can bring peace during conflict. Its a life saver.

3. THANK YOU

This is  used to appreciate a favour or help. Forgetting to use this word  makes a person feels unappreciated and kills the potential of getting another favour from such person next time.This is because it’s human nature that we want to be appreciated. No matter how little the favour is, it’s essential for the beneficiary to say “thank you”.
 It encourages the doer of the favour.Always use this word to show that you are appreciative that you value what you have been given.

4. EXCUSE ME

This is a polite word that can get one out of trouble, it also shows respect and regard for others. For instance, when you are to pick a phone call in a meeting or in the company of friends, by simply saying ” excuse me” makes the people around feel important.
This word brings about peaceful and humble co-existence between you and any other person out in a public.
Not like we all don’t know when to use this word, its just that some people decides not to use it  maybe because they don’t see its essence.
Using it makes you sound more matured and learned. it works like magic.
Not using this word at a time you are meant to or using the harsher version of it. could bring about conflict, troubles and disputes.

5. PARDON ME

 This is a magic word  used after accepting a fault of mistake. It is used after being sorry for a particular misdeed or wrong.When you are on the  wrong side and you are being remorseful , this magic word can help give access to forgiveness. Forgiveness is easier when mistake has been accepted.

Words are powerful
Words can kill
Words can heal
Words can provoke the heart
Words can melt the heart
Using the right word at the right time makes life easier and relationship stronger.
Use the magic words rightly!

Beauty is character

Good looks are important but without a good character such looks could seem disgusting.
A person who is beautiful and have no positive character condemns his/her beauty. Character
is the substance that enrich the mind and soul.
Beauty is just a mere quality that fades away any time.

Some ladies believes that the moment they are attractive or by enhancing  their looks with enough make-up, nice dress, beautiful hair style, lovely shoes or designer hand bags they are good enough for any man.Naa! it doesn't work that way.

Have you ever wondered why most beautiful single ladies walk up and down single and desperately looking for husband or eager to get married.
Many beautiful ladies out there are still single because of their bad character.

Every man wants a good woman for a wife.Guys can date mannerless beautiful ladies , but would never want to marry a lady with bad character .Its not just beauty that is needed to keep a home,character is needed.
Have you ever seen a beautiful woman that stays beautiful forever? Check out your great grandma, grandma and your mother its hard to see that ever young and beautiful face in them. They were once like you.

 Your character is your beauty, so if you have a positive character then you are extremely beautiful. The way you treat people, the way you approach people, the way you handle issues are what defines your character which is your beauty.
That which is inside is more valuable than that which is outside. It is the inner beauty that matters.

Character is the inner beauty. What is inside is much more beautiful than what is outside.If you are a quarrelsome person who causes trouble wherever you find yourself, people can not associate with you even if you are a beauty like a Cinderella on the outside.

While Beauty fades character stays.So while you care much about your beauty work on your character and develop good attitude.
Beauty doesnt lasts forever but a beautiful character does!

BIGGEST PARENTING MISTAKES THAT DESTROYS YOUR CHILD Self ESTEEM

BIGGEST PARENTING MISTAKES THAT DESTROYS YOUR CHILD Self ESTEEM

Self Esteem is one of the most important intangible assets of the human being. Which involves adults and children. Without self-esteem certain decisions will never be made especially positive assessment of ourselves that helps us develop socially, protect ourselves and love ourselves.
Low self-esteem is characterized by a lack of confidence and feeling bad about oneself. People with low self-esteem often feel unlovable, awkward and incompetent. Low self-esteem in children makes them hypersensitive. They end up having a fragile sense of self that can easily be wounded by others.
Most Parents are unknowingly responsible for their children’s low self- esteem.

 Every parent believes that they are doing a particular deed or applying a specific disciplinary method for the best interest of their children. A lot of times I see parents shout down their kids. Oh, some even find it entertaining discussing it;
‘Once I shout at my kid, he shivers and gets things done in the right way’
‘I purposely disgrace her when her friends are around, so she never makes any mistakes’
‘I compare my first child to her kid brother just to challenge her academic performance’
Children are totally different and unique in their own way. If your child has some weakness in arithmetic such a child could be creative in other things. You need not make your child irrelevant but bring out the best in such child. Making mistakes is an integral part of a child’s learning and growth process. No one is ever born to be a perfect parent but you can always learn. You may never know that you are responsible for your child’s low self-esteem until you realize.
Here are the 10 biggest parenting mistakes that destroys your child self-esteem

1.Shouting on your children

Many parents feel the best way to correct a child is by shouting. They scold and shout on kids for simple mistakes which every kid does. This kind of parents are always acting like a perfectionist forgetting that even adults make mistakes. Shouting on kids could be so damaging as it shapes the child's belief and causes withdrawal between a parent and a child. Such a child feels so scared to express his/her self in public resulting to low self-esteem.

2.Comparing Children to Siblings or Other Children

Parents often believe that if they extol the positive characteristics of siblings and other children to their so-called errant child, their own child will improve. Often, the comparison does the opposite. Those who are constantly compared to others have a diminished sense of individuality and ultimately come to believe that they are worthless. Instead of comparison focus on bringing out the best in your child.

3.Criticizing Child's Innate Abilities, Temperament, or Characteristics

Many parents are threatened and nonplussed if their children's abilities and characteristics are different from their own. They feel that if their children are just like them, everything will be harmonious and stress-free.
Those who criticize their diametrically different children's innate abilities and characteristics are often invalidating their children's innermost psychological core. These children often feel insignificant and totally unappreciated. Just because a child does not have the same characteristics as their parents does not mean they are a failure that needs correcting. A good strategy is to encourage children to develop their own personality and voice.

4.Continuously Harping About Mistakes

Making mistakes is an integral part of a child's learning and growth process. Childhood is a time to freely explore, try on different personas, and fall on your face. However, there are parents who equate mistakes with grave mortal sin. Continuous harping about mistakes to a child is tantamount to abuse. This child begins to lose what sense of initiative and risk-taking that they have and thus they become extremely anxious and risk-aversive, often not electing to attempt anything for fear of failure. Teaching your child to accept mistakes and failures positively is a good way to go about things.

5.Teaching That a Child's Dreams, Aspirations, and Goals Are Impossible to Reach

Many parents criticize their children aspirations and goals making them believe it’s never achievable, thereby forcing a different career, path, dream and goals on their children. Well, some individuals have goals and aspirations which are dramatically different and rare. They should be encouraged. Often these kids do end up settling for ordinary and safe careers, much to their regret. They are grossly unhappy, yearning for what might have been.
Instead, parents should encourage their children to pursue their dreams and let them figure out if their dreams are achievable.

6. Demanding blind obedience

Some parents are authoritarians, all they want is 100% obedience at all times without questioning. They always want to control their kids not considering that kids want to be heard at times. They make their home an army barrack giving commands without giving a listening ear. Such parents end up raising timid and powerless kids bringing a wreck to a child self-esteem.

7. Never Praising

There are parents who do not believe in praising a child. They believe praising the child will make a lot of things go wrong. Every child wants to be praised especially when they work hard to achieve something positive. Refusing to praise your child kills the aspirations to do more. Such a child sees no motivating factor to achieve greater goals. He/she thereby ends up settling for less.

8.Evaluating a Child's Intellectual Capacity based on academic performance

Most parents tag their children as failures the moment a child comes home with a poor academic performance. A child is never a failure because he/she fails a subject. Such a child only has a weakness in such subject. Many great men today were people whose teachers or parents tagged failure and had given up on. Never judge a child because of a weakness. Most parents keep bringing it to the ears of their children that they are nothing but failures because of a poor academic performance thereby making such children a low achiever in life.

9.Verbal Abuse

This is a destructive parenting style which happens when a parent is angry. Most times when I hear parents call their children stupid, idiot, etc. I feel devastating because those words kill the child. There is nothing as worse as hearing a parent call a child looser, I wish you were never born. A child should find comfort in his/her parents. Many at times when parents speak angrily, they never know the harm such words could cause, words are powerful. Never abuse your child verbally, it kills the self-esteem in your child.

10.Embarassing your child in front of other kids

Some parents think the very best way to correct a child is by embarrassing such child amongst his/her peers. A parent once told her son amidst his friends that he should make sure he comes back from school early so that he can clean his urine bed. His friends laughed and made jest of him. Unknowingly to the parent that the news went around the school and the boy was nicknamed bedwetter. This affected his psychological being and destroyed his self-esteem. There are better ways to correct a child but definitely not embarrassing a child amongst peers.


Correction and discipline are meant to improve and enhance a child sense of being. Correction and discipline are not to demoralize children or to leave them with low self-esteem. When correcting your child please do it in the right way. A child with low self-esteem is a target for bullies!

Things you need to know before seeking admission

Sometimes we end up making an available choice of course.The pressure to leave home and be admitted to any higher institution could lead one to nowhere.It is important for you to get the right orientation before choosing a course if you want to make it big in life. There are some high paying jobs in the society and it would be totally useless for you to waste so much time in the university over a course that is not lucrative of what use is it to pay heavily for education if the discipline would not yield high returns in the long run? A high salary does not hurt anyone as most people dream of good jobs that will settle them financially and help them live the lives they have dreamt of living.

It will shock you to know that there are some high paying jobs in the country; these are the kind of jobs that put you above the average salary earners. Here, one can afford to live large and save for the rainy days.

People with high paying jobs may not feel the long term impact of recession as they will always have enough to sort themselves and their family members. Although the employment rate is depressing, those who are fortunate enough to get these jobs earn enviable salaries. Not only is the pay encouraging, the respect that comes with jobs like that also spur many people on. The work balance is fair compared to jobs with demanding requirements and lesser pay. Find below the best high-paying jobs in Nigeria, they are not listed in any particular order:

1. Healthcare

In Nigeria, the respect that comes with being a medical doctor can never be underestimated. Irrespective of their area of specialization, medical doctors will always be considered to be hot cakes as they are well paid and the security that comes with the job is high.Surgeons receive an attractive sum of money in addition to being highly sought.

2. Law

For so many reasons, Nigerian parents have certain professions they want their wards to focus on. This is because they know the stability that comes with jobs like that.Being a lawyer is one of the jobs any parent would wish his child to have. Studying this course requires serious commitment and dedication.

3. Petroleum engineering

Anyone who works offshore or onshore as an engineer for a petroleum company is sure to earn a huge salary.There are some jobs that people do not bother asking what the minimum salary is because it would surpass their expectations and leave them either depressed or excited.

This job is more or less the dream job of many Nigerians as they get to live well compared to the meager salaries being paid to people in other professions.

4. Airline operation

Being a pilot in Nigeria is no joke. The skilled personnel who fly the planes get paid heavily in addition to the boosted self esteem they have every time someone 'oohs' and 'aahs' about their profession.They are treated like expatriates and enjoy some privileges exclusive to that profession alone.

5. Lecturing

Although many people have different opinions about this job, it is one of the most stable jobs we have here. The pay is handsome and it comes with some benefits that propels self development.Apart from being well paid, lecturers have the time to do other businesses and grow their brands compared to those who work other jobs. Their profession gives them the opportunity to meet people from all walks of life.

6. Politics

In this part of the world, being a politician is a job. While they are serving the nation in the best way possible, they are highly paid individuals who take money in addition to what is given to them officially. This list would be incomplete without them.

7. Engineering

There is a reason this job is being separated from that of the petrochemical engineers. Although they are in the same field, their job requirements are different.Engineers are highly paid because they have access to the major projects that are being done. They bid for major contracts sponsored by the government and make a fortune from the projects.Just a few out of many could be brought to limelight.So,before you make any choice of course ,get a detailed information on what the career entails.

INFORMATION TRANSFORMS!

LOVE....not Heartbreak

The word love has been  misinterpreted by several people.God has programmed our hearts in such a way that we tend to feel love,understand the language of love and act in love.
HE was the first to practice love because he understood the depth of it.                     
Have you ever taken your time to observe the animals,they have their love language.Love is never blind,do not be deceived! Love and sex are two different things.A man can have sex with you and still has no love for you.Do not ever compromise your standard because of love.You will definitely meet that guardian angel who loves your imperfection and will be patient enough to make it perfect.Your heart is not Wifi or bluetooth that you keep falling for anybody.You can never pretend to love,it wouldn't stand the test of time.

Heartbreaks could be trending in our times because we don't even understand the mystery behind the word love.If you don't love yourself you can never love others.Love doesn't make you break the rules,it makes you adhere to the golden rules.         
I love you is a common word but more costly.If you don't know the author of love you will end up loving the wrong people. True love exists,some have found theirs.You can also find yours.Don't joke with your emotions,it could affect your mental being.Restraining yourself from love after heartbreak could seem complicating.You might end up losing that great person who will love you beyond words.
Heart breakers are losers ,they keep losing treasures like you.If you've found a treasure in love,never let go ,until its totally over.Love.....such a sweet feeling,i know from experience

LADIES....let's have a gist

Shout out to those beautiful ladies out there who still maintain their integrity in fashion. Sometimes one would be so frustrated to ask questions like .......is this madness or fashion? when you see ladies go naked on streets all in the name of fashion. Am glad to announce to you that even the so called guyz they tend to impress are finding it so irritating and annoying to see ladies half naked on the street all in the name of fashion. When you see a young girl of age 1-5 walking nakedly on the street ,its mostly referred to a child's play.One will feel more bothered and of course pitiful to see a matured lady walking nakedly on the street especially when she seems to be in her right sense. Ladies love to look beautiful.....no probs! Do you know that even when you dress beautiful you can still be properly dressed in your own style? Stop exposing that front and back stuff! In case you don't know, there are still millions of ladies out there who are more beautiful than you and still dresses decently. WE CELEBRATE THESE YOUNG LADIES WHO ROCK IT DECENTLY! DRESS DECENTLY! U ARE WORTH MORE THAN GOLD!!!

MY ADDICTION

Several people live on with addiction to one thing or the other.
Some are addicted to drugs,sex,masturbation and alcohol and the likes. They keep fighting it  but gets more addicted to it each day. My addiction started several years back.It was a sudden feeling that took a whole of me.So many times i asked myself if i was really gonna get over it. I couldn't tell anyone who the real me was.
While growing up,I learnt more about my addiction.I was not the only one with such an addiction.

I met people who had been more entangled than I was.I discovered they had no shame for it.They lived with the addiction just like a normal person.I tried so many times to come out of my addiction.I did it all alone but just couldn't come out of it.Instead i got more deeper in it.Sometimes when am all alone i just break down in tears,when i realized how far I had gone. Recently i discovered i had lived a normal life despite my addiction. Am never ashamed to say this,because this is me with my addiction and am never gonna come out of it.
Do you know what my addiction had been? MY LOVE FOR JESUS!!! Got addicted to him and want to live my life with this addiction. So many people had asked me why i took this Jesus 'thing' seriously and this is my answer 'He took me more seriously by going down the cross to bear my pains' definitely he deserves all. #Jesus#My Addiction#This is me#Addicted to Jesus#   

BEAUTIFUL DUMMY

Beauty they say is in the eyes of the beholder! A beautiful face without a beautiful brain may attract a good man but the beast in the brain will send the man packing. Gone are the days when young men wants to marry a beautiful wife,make her a tourist center and a sex mate.Young men no longer want just the beautiful face,they also want a beautiful brain that will help raise great kids and be a 'companion'. Sometimes one could easily get attracted to a beautiful lady but would end up being disappointed after spending two hours discussing,you get to discover that her brain is simply empty.....WHAT A WASTE! Every man wants to be seen with an added value,a lady of integrity,spiritually sound,mentally upright and indeed a BEAUTY. Ladies are no longer bothered about what they can offer,they are rather concerned about what they can get with their beauty. In case you don't know,there are places you may be able to get to because of your beauty and there are places you may never get to because of the dummy you have grown to be.Beauty attracts but a brilliant mind announces. There are millions of women in the world who are not even beautiful but they rule the world.They are Great Leaders,Record breakers,Pace Setters,Heroines and World changer. Beauty may bring you a little penny but a sound and brilliant mind brings you to the limelight.As much as you make your face beautiful kindly make a better use of your brain.Get informed! Education is not limited to going to school, its really beyond that. A Beautiful dummy ends up becoming a BEAST.Are you a beautiful dummy? please make a change........

WHERE IS THE WORLD HEADING?

What will the next 10, 20 or 30 years bring? It can be frightening to contemplate the future in this age of terrorism .Technology is booming, globalization has made many nations interdependent. Will world leaders unite and pave the way fore a better tomorrow? Some people say YES hoping that by the year 2020, leaders will be able to stem the tide of poverty, hunger, reverse the spread of AIDS, and halve the proportion of those without security. The picture here and there is ‘OPTIMISM’ versus ‘REALITY’. So, WHERE IS THIS WORLD HEADING?